I’m not sure when we thought it might happen, but we were kind of expecting it. He’s seven and after first grade we thought he was doing better. Through the summer break we had him work on his handwriting, which wasn’t very good–neither is mine–and he fought us every day with it.
I’m not sure if there was switch that was thrown–my wife and I have debated this–between Kindergarten and first grade but between those two he was different. I’m not sure if the school he went to for kindergarten taught him well enough–it was a daycare with a kindergarten–or if just didn’t act like that then.
Since first grade started he had problems. When we sit to do his homework, he fights, he screams and yells, calls us names. And we’ve tried disciplining him, taking things away from him and nothing worked.
Being in second grade we hoped he changed, but we are now halfway through the school year, his grades are low and we–his mom and I and his teacher–did the checklist for ADD/ADHD and it came back for ADD. He isn’t hyperactive he just can’t focus on a singular task.
Now we are at a different crossroad, we are giving him a homeopathic medicine for ADD/ADHD. My wife went to his doctor appointment, while I stayed home with our 2-year-old. The doctor suggested Concerta. We don’t want to give him medication. Right now, with how his grades are and how much stress this is causing in the house.
My wife is worried he is going to be held back. He’s a smart kid, he just learns differently than other kids. Teachers don’t have the time to spend with every kid, there are just too many kids to classroom.
Our son plays the guitar, has been for almost a year and I don’t want to take that away from him. It is something he enjoys and it is getting good at it. Even with this, something he enjoys he fights with us about practicing.
We are truly at our last straw. I don’t want to give him medication but I want him to do well in school.
My other worry is about his imagination and that he will lose it through being medicated.
When I have trouble writing, I look to him and watch him with his Transformers, and Legos and marvel and the things he creates, the stories he comes up with. He could teach Michael Bay a thing or two about Transformer storylines.
Both my wife and I are artists, my wife paints, I’m a writer and we encourage our kids to do things with the arts, which is why our son plays guitar. To read more about how that came to be read this post.
His imagination makes me want to write more, and I don’t want to take that away from him. I wish there was another way to do this, it’s just getting to the point we don’t have another option.